Sally, I'm also new so don't have an answer to your question per se, but am interested in learning more about what you're looking for.
Thanks for responding - I'll just go ahead and tell you and if I am breaking the rules I am sure someone will let me know.
Last year I started Paragram which is dedicated to offering opportunities to poets and writers of short prose to read to at an event and also to be published...publishing opportunities seem few and far between at the moment.
Our next reading event is 13 April at the Chertsey Bookshop with some open mic spots still available, though of course this is only useful if you live within travellin distance.
The anthology however is open to all, wherever you may be. The deadline is 1st July 2012 and the theme is 'Connections'. All the relevant details can be found at http://www.para-gram.com.
Do have a look if you are interested.
This is very helpful, thank you for such an in depth answer.
I will indeed look up www.winningwriters.com.
Also, looking for members here and contacting them is a great idea,