“If Alberto were still alive, I wouldn’t be here.
Yet my happiness is still happening without him.
I can’t stop the grief or the joy, so I’m splitting the difference between them.
And soaking up the moment, like he would do with a bit of bread and
the sauce left over from a really good meal.”
— Tré Miller Rodríguez, Splitting the Difference
Tré was a young L.A. publicist when she fell in love with Alberto, a 30-something advertising exec. They married on their eighth date and began a Manhattan adventure that was shattered less than four years later when she found him dead of a heart attack. In sharply immediate prose, Tré comes to grips with the loss while recounting her marriage to the man she saw as her partner in time. In a state of grief, she seeks respite in one-night stands, a staggering amount of champagne and finally, Alberto’s homeland of Cuba. Shifting between past and present, she unpacks the oddness of being widowed at 34 and the joy of reuniting with the daughter she gave up for adoption years ago. At turns irreverent and heart-rending, Splitting the Difference captures one woman’s pursuit of hope and context amid personal tragedy.
“No other book entangles romance and grief in such an urgent and beautiful way. Tré Miller Rodríguez writes as she lives: with breathless poise, unmatched style and fierce bravery.”
— Claire Bidwell Smith, author of The Rules of Inheritance
“Splitting the Difference is a story of love and loss told with flair, ballsy bravado and unflinching honesty.”
—Susan Shapiro, author of Five Men Who Broke My Heart
Tré Miller Rodríguez was born in California and lives in New York City. An award-winning copywriter, her essays have appeared in Manhattan Magazine, and on The Daily Beast and WhiteElephantInTheRoom.com. This is her first book.