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Permalink Reply by Lucille Joyner on February 5, 2011 at 8:00pm

What a touching story! I loved it!

Permalink Reply by Debra Gagnon on February 15, 2011 at 10:02am

Your essay flows very nicely and really resonates with me.  I like the way you begin the essay.  It grabs the readers' attention as you,then, lead us into the rest of your story. Your words convey your emotional experience quite vividly for me. I believe you when you say, " I know I'm meant to be a writer". I think so too.  I am glad your essay came to my attention and I enjoyed reading it.

Permalink Reply by Jennifer Knickerbocker on March 3, 2011 at 8:38pm

I like what you had to say and how vulnerable you are about your feelings and fears.  Thank you for sharing!

Jennifer

Permalink Reply by Kelly Garriott Waite on April 14, 2011 at 2:22pm

I really like what you’re doing here. You’ve got some really powerful lines.

I’m thinking that there are two stories you’ve identified here: the first, your hearing loss. And you compensated for that by writing. So it’s almost as if writing saved you, at least the first time.
Flash forward 17 years and now you’re faced with another life-changing issue: All your plans are gone. Writing is not going to save you this time (This point isn’t showing clearly enough). The journal is stupid. The journal is a waste of time.

Then the journal saves you and maybe instead of leaving off with the journal saving you, you could expand it to the original writing and conclude that no, it wasn’t the journal that saved you, but it was the writing that saved you—twice.

I’m going to highlight a few nitpicky things below. (Actually, now that I've pasted this in, I've lost the highlighting, so I'll try to make it stand out somehow)

“I’m afraid I have bad news.” The young ophthalmologist said as his voice quivered. “You’re going blind.” *** PUNCTUATION“I’m afraid I have bad news,” the young...

***Here, I think you’re telling us too much. Can you give it to us in dialogue?
“What? I’m only twenty-one.”
“I’m sorry,” he repeated, shaking his head sadly (or whatever).
“I just need glasses...just...”
Etc.
At 21-years old, I came in to that room earlier for a routine eye checkup thinking I only needed glasses. When I heard those words, it felt like the walls were closing in around me, the same walls I worked so hard to keep at bay ***I’m not understanding the refereence to teh walls you’re keeping at bay. The dreams and hopes I had for a promising future disintegrated before me in that dim-lit room. ***Dimly-lit? With the diagnosis, I felt the talons of death dig deep into my heart as pain tore through me. What do I do now? ***Here you’ve changed to present tense. What was I supposed to do? Or ask the doctor in dialogue “What do I do now?”
***And here, for a transition, I’d go with something other than let’s go back to the beginning. Maybe you can tell the reader or have your character tell the doctor something like...I’ve already been through enough. This isn’t fair. Or something to make that transition. Then you can get into the next part of the story.
Let’s go back to the beginning, back to the 1970s when things were still archaic especially if you lived in a small mountain community in upstate New York. At the age of two, I did not behave like others my age. I startled easily. I spoke very few words. I would not respond when spoken to. I threw frequent temper tantrums. I’d delete for. Just go with My parents knew something wasn’t right. For my parents, they knew something wasn’t quite right.
For the next two years, they took me to various specialists across New York and New England states in search for answers.

“She’s fine.”

“We don’t know what is wrong with your daughter.”

“She has behavioral issues which should be addressed by a therapist.”

“We recommend your daughter be admitted for further psychological evaluations.”
***I like the use of these quotes.

As a last resort, my parents took me to an audiologist near Plattsburgh NY. To Audrey. ***I love the use of To Audrey. Audrey put me through a series of tests and discovered the answer. To demonstrate, she placed me in a soundproof room with a head phone. She then amplified the sound of my voice. I mumbled incoherently at first, and gradually my words grew clearer.
Audrey turned to my bewildered parents and said. “Your daughter has moderate to severe hearing loss in both ears.”

Nerve deafness, she called it.

I was four years old and for the first time in my life, I heard the sound of my own voice.***I love this line. This is incredibly powerful.

Fitted with hearing aids, I spent the next two years attending speech therapies to get caught up in my speech development. Regardless of these intensive sessions, I still spoke funny. I struggled in school academically. I was acutely aware of being different from the others. For these reasons, I kept to myself and made few friends. What I lacked I made up with imaginary friends and often times pretended I was someone else; as a person with a more meaningful presence in the world.
My life took a new direction in fifth grade when a classmate issued a challenge on who could write the best story. I discovered the writer within me when I wrote the ‘house that had a severed head in a refrigerator’ story. My classmates thought the story too terrifying; I loved it. The story found the hidden switch and turned the light on within me; this same light revealed a whole new world of possibilities that I never knew existed. Writing brought everything around me to life in high definition with booming surround sound. Through writing, I finally felt like I was somebody who had a purpose for being in this world.
While writing provided the mental and emotional outlets it still wasn’t enough. I continued to experience sudden outbursts of anger and struggled with being hyper most of the time. Competing in sports helped provide a way to purge the negative energy. In high school and through college, I played in every sport I was allowed to. Being an athlete enabled me to stay focused on the things that demanded my complete attention. Competing and the occasional victories gave me the confidence and self-worth I craved. I decided to pursue a career in Exercise Science. My desire was to work with elite athletes to help them find ways of improving their performances. ***So here you’re saying writing’s good, but it’s not enough.

I was well on my way until that fateful day.

It was the day I learned I had Usher’s Syndrome Type II (a form of Retinitis Pigmentosa which includes moderate to severe hearing loss along with deteriorating eyesight). A blind athlete? A blind writer? How contradictory they sounded to me. I struggled most of my life with deafness and had found a way to overcome it; but, to lose my vision as well? The harsh reality set in like a mountain crashing into the ocean in thunderous waves. ***I think what you’ve experienced is even worse than the image you try to give us and so by giving us this image, you diminish your experience. Let the experience speak for itself. You do that so beautifully. Who would be remotely interested in hiring a blind-deaf person to help train athletes where perfection rules? Who would want to hire a blind-deaf person in the publishing industry where everything is scrutinize***D and any shortcomings shunned?
Self-pity consumed every waking thought as I allowed the walls of limitations to box me in completely. ***I like this reference to walls again.I saw no way out. The dreams were no longer attainable. I gave up, and let it all go.
Eight years went by as I passed each day like a zombie with no future. Life to me was one endless gray road. I refused to acknowledge the multiple interchanges and exits where a dream laid as it waited to be rediscovered. I could not bring myself to believe there was still hope.
One day, I received an unexpected gift in form of a journal. It was a simple, leather-bound book with a cute drawing of a cartoonish cat on its cover. It was a book filled with empty pages.
The journal was empty. I could almost feel its desires, its pain of being so utterly hallow ***HOLLOW?. It wanted to be something meaningful to someone. It reminded me of a dream I once had. It filled me with remorse and regrets, and I hated it.
So, I tried to ignore the journal. I hid it under the couch. I hid it under the mattress. I even buried it in a box and stuffed it in back of a cluttered closet. Still, I heard it calling. Pleading. I cursed the book, but yet I could not bring myself to destroy or even part with it. Something wouldn’t let me. Why did it haunt me so? I just wanted to be left alone in my misery and self pity.
After weeks of continued torment, I gave in. Day after day, I wrote as I poured out my pain and anger. As I filled each page with streams of words, I felt the heavy weight lifted from my heart. Colors and sounds filled my senses like music from the heavens. As the journal grew full, the emptiness within me slowly melted into something else. Something that resembled a beating heart that once again was full of hope and passions. My soul now reawakened as I felt like a newborn that was seeing the world for the first time.
I’ll never be a Hemingway, or a Poe, or a King; but, I know I’m meant to be a writer. Blindness and all. I learned that to deny the Muse of my soul meant certain misery and eventual death. All it took was a journal to save a wretched life. Mine. ***I like this ending, but I’d like to see it tied up a bit tighter. You haven’t reconciled yet to the loss of the sports. Before you said that writing wasn’t enough, that you needed sports. So now, I want that loose end to be tied up before you end it.

Permalink Reply by Lucille Joyner on April 14, 2011 at 5:33pm

How good of Kelly Garriott Waite to give of her time and expertise to  a lengthy critique Carrie A. Golden's story! I wish I had known Kelly before I sent my book in for publication. My book is good, but Kelly would have made it a best-seller. Lucille Joyner

Permalink Reply by Carrie A Golden on April 15, 2011 at 4:36am

Kelly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for your in-depth and honest critique! :)  I'd be the first to admit that this essay needs a lot of work, but it is my hope and desire to make this piece the best it can be and use it to  help others who are going through difficult times.

 

Again, thank you so much!

Permalink Reply by Kelly Garriott Waite on April 15, 2011 at 4:48am

Carrie,

You're very welcome.  I think you've got a beautiful piece here.

Kelly