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From my perspective, a memoir is supposed to be one slice of a life -- not a whole life. (An autobiography, usually written by celebrities, is a whole life.) That's why I've been able to write/publish 3 memoirs, and am at work on a fourth. Each memoir follows a theme of my life. Of course, there's a little overlap, but that's to be expected. For example, my first memoir is about growing up in an incestuous family. The second memoir is about recovering from a sexual addiction. Now, in the second memoir, of course I had to show that the reason why I struggled with the sex addiction is because my father had molested me. However, each book stands alone. The focus of each -- as well as the voice of each -- is very different.
Does a Memoir imply a person's whole life or can you have 20 Memoirs based on 20 events?
Lucille: About an attorney for writers: if you're a member of the Author's Guild, one of their free services is a staff attorney one can contact.
For me, a memoir is fact-based, but facts are subjective...and a memoir is based on memory, also subjective. I don't think people read memoirs looking for some kind of academic, historical truth. Readers of memoir understand that memory is open to interpretation. As you mention below, one sibling will remember a childhood or parents one way, while another sibling will remember something else altogether. That's certainly true of my sister me.
But, from my perspective, that's beside the point. When I write memoir (I'm on my 4th!), all I can do is write from my own subjective recollection of events. It's my own interpretation and my own sense of what happened. I would never make up a fact willy-nilly (like James Frey), but I know that others would interpret an event differently from me. That's just the way it is. And I write memoir not only to recollect events, but more to try to make sense of them...understand the metaphors of any given experience.
We KNOW that about witnesses. They are mostly subjective. But the Victim knows what they experienced. It's objective. Now if the Witnesses wrote this memoir, it would be 60% fiction and maybe 40% truth. But if the Victim wrote this memoir, it would be 90% facts and 10% fiction. I suppose that if one can write a Memoir that is at least 90% accurate, it would constitute a good Memoir.
It's one thing to be talking about a crimeaccident. It's a whole different matter when remembering the past. That's where memory fails. Case in point: My siblings remember parents and home life one way. I remember it differently. That difference is that when everybody was married and I was a teenager, my mother hit the lotto. My life was totally different from theirs. If you asked them what my mother was like, you'd get one answer. If you asked me, you'd get a different answer. When you stop and think of all the factors involved, one wonders if it's even possible to write a memoir.
Check out eyewitness testimony experiments - Harold Takooshian wrote about that - people can look at the same set of facts and "see" different things. The facts are the same, but people remember the same situation differently. I took a memoir course with Marion Roach and her sister. She and her sister wrote about the same incident and their essays were vastly different. We bring ourselves into every experience and that colors how it is perceived.
No matter where a person stands, victim turned victor, I don't see how facts can change. You can heal from being shot, both physically and emotionally, but that doesn't heal the scar. The facts of how you got the scar does not change.
Perhaps I don't fully understand what Fiction is, I'm a musician, you know. I don't really understand what Creative Nonfiction is. To me, Fiction is a product of imagination. Nonfiction is a factual happening. Where I see change is in the style of writing it up. Thinking of it differently is a personal change, but facts are fixed. I'm open to other points of view, though.
In a way all memoir has elements of fiction. We tell our stories to the best of our ability. When I look back on my past the narrative changes. At one point I was victim and I saw my past through the eyes of the terrible things done to me. Now that I've healed, I see myself as victor and that colors how I look on my past. I've gained more compassion for my abusers, see how hurt people hurt people. The facts are the same, but my perspective has changed.
A memoir that needs to be re-written as fiction. What an interesting idea. If you did that, would it still be a memoir?
Lucille, there are times when memoir needs to be re-written as fiction. Is this one of those times?
Adrienne, your suggestions are good leads.
You see, when you are writing a Memoir, and your memoir involves people you have known, even if they are dead, there may be a limit to what you can say. I'm not talking about slander or anything like that. I wouldn't do that anyway, but sometimes you can't be as open and frank about someone else as you would about yourself. You may want to quote a letter, and perhaps you shouldn't. SOMEONE must know where the limit is. I will look into your suggestions.
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