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Comment by Tania Pryputniewicz on Wednesday

@Rhonda, thanks for the support--preparing the family is the new plan...and that's additionally an interesting point--about potential emotional tempests in response to negative reviews...ongoing opportunity to grow, I guess--right? Such a different process: the quiet creation of the work, vs. the public sharing where others get to chime in. I wish us all luck and grace with that part of the journey as it unfolds. Thanks for thinking about it with me.

Comment by RYCJ on Tuesday


Glad you loved my post. Your post, and comment below is something writers must think about. In general most books, or any book for that matter, no matter how delicately the work is worded, will evoke different emotions in readers. This is what books do, so preparing your family is a reasonable step.

FYI. I still think about that one author whose family, fans and spouse sort of lost it when they met with some 'negative' reader reactions.

Comment by Tania Pryputniewicz on Tuesday

Darlene, my children are a bit younger...the teen girl is just hitting the adolescent bloom; my concerns sort of reach backwards in time; the poems I'm worried about her reading are the ones about date rape. I would love it for her to be 18 or older before she reads those. Of course, the book comes out in November. I have to remember that the book is 90 pages long; maybe 5 of those pages are that graphic. So it is easy to focus on the few I'm anxious about. I think I'm more worried about someone else saying something to her, but I think I will just talk to my immediate family about that.

Comment by Tania Pryputniewicz on Tuesday

Prior guest blogger Alexandria Peary looks at 19th century editor Sarah Josepha Hale's methods for helping women writers and connects them to the work being done here at She Writes, VIDA's Her Kind, and Mother Writer Mentor. Is is rich with anecdotes and history--I learned a lot just by cruising Alex's source list. Link to article in its entirety here: Bloggers in the Textroom: Alexandria Peary Defines a Lineage of Fem...

Comment by Tania Pryputniewicz on Tuesday

Loved it Rhonda--amazing to have had opposition at age four--and to have persevered! Enjoyed your post--

Comment by RYCJ on Sunday

I took on ania Pryputniewicz’s blog topic answering What My Family Thinks of My Writing?

Comment by Brenda Moguez on September 12, 2014 at 7:08am

So you want to be a writer…but ask yourself, do you have what it takes?

Comment by Darlene Deluca on September 11, 2014 at 8:11pm

My daughter is 23 and she's a reader and a pretty good writer. I value her opinion, so I do let her read my writing. It took a while to get comfortable with it, though, especially the romance/sex part. There's nothing particularly graphic in what I write, but it's still a little weird. I do not let my 18-year-old son read it. But, of course, he could do so on his own if he wanted to!

Comment by Tania Pryputniewicz on September 11, 2014 at 5:18pm

Love it--very grounded response, Ashley Grill. A friend of mine was trying to help me look at this too, and she thought, I think as you are implying, that time was the allow my daughter to grow up and when she's ready, to take an interest, to welcome it then. I feel since I am just learning to trust the world myself again, I want to be careful to trust in a world for her that is different than mine; she has a different story than mine. I will sort and choose maybe some things to share now--she's seen poems I've written about our family (the happier ones). The ones from my own challenging adolescence I don't feel she needs to read yet. Maybe when she is a grown woman. But the book comes out this fall, and I want to be conscious of her awareness, protecting her is foremost in my mind.

I really like your idea of meeting them where there are on the curiosity spectrum, and housing it in language or distilling it down to simpler terms that make sense for whatever age they are. Less is more, right? Thanks so much for the response. It has been an emotional time for me. I've need the mirrors of other mothers to help me see where I'm going as I go.

Comment by Ashley Grill on September 11, 2014 at 3:44pm

Great question Tania Pryputniewicz!  I'd love to hear others comments.  For me I do not show my daughter my writing at this point.  She is 9.5 and the story I've been writing is something I think she should be older to read.  I don't want it to take away her world view by sharing my perspective, but I do talk with her.  I give a watered down kid friendly version of the stories I've written about our life (fiction based on a true story) when I talk with her. She asks questions and I answer the best I can, but still protect her innocence, and try to build her relationship with her father. But, I don't want her to be hurt that she didn't know anything, when and if she chooses to read what I write.  I agree that family secrets are worse than family scandals.  Secrets isolate and stigmatize events, especially when they deal with your identity as a mother writer.  To not tell her about what I've written at all is like not letting her know who I am. I just want to make sure she is mature enough to cope and is surrounded with enough love and support when and if she ever chooses to read the stories I've written (I think in 5-10 years it may be ok).

Can anyone share their experience publishing before their children are of the age to read the content they're writing?  


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