I'm so glad to be a part of this group.
I am a mother to three daughters, ages 8, 5 and 21 months. I "stay at home" but try to spend as much of my day is possible to write. (I mainly write essays.) I've been published in small print and online magazines, but the pay has either been minimal or none.
My main obstacle to writing is my overall feeling of illegitimacy as a mother-writer -- I don't make money, so what justifies the occasional baby-sitter so I can write? Or the money spent attending a workshop? Or getting take-out for dinner? I'm considering sending my baby to preschool two or three mornings a week next fall -- by why even bother making that time for myself if I can't get anything more published?
Does anyone else struggle with this issue? I used to write only at night, after my kids went to bed, but I haven't been able to do this since having my third child. (A day with all three is just too tiring for me to think.) So I'm taking time away from my family to do what may not ever become a "successful" career.