What's the most unlikely thing in your life for which you give genuine and frequent thanks? What surprises you about your gratitude?
We know we should be grateful for whatever health we possess, whatever prosperity we enjoy and whatever cable or streaming devices to which we have access.
Yet, paradoxically, it's at those moments when the universe seems to let us down that we gain our most significant strengths.
In celebration of Thanksgiving, I've picked six items for…Continue
Added by regina barreca on December 5, 2016 at 11:41am — No Comments
Have personal diets replaced personal philosophies?
Rules of everything from morality to etiquette no longer appear to apply. People will eagerly discuss their open relationships, their dismissal of religion, the fact that they didn't vote, their contempt for handwritten notes and their sexually transmitted diseases.
Yet these same people will also threaten never to speak to you again if you serve them runny eggs, pasteurized milk or any dish where the mashed potatoes have…Continue
Added by regina barreca on December 5, 2016 at 11:39am — No Comments
Class, like sexual identity, is on a continuum. Just as Benedict Cumberbatch is more feminine than Cameron Diaz, so are members of "Duck Dynasty's" Robertson family — estimated net worth of around $53 million — regarded by many fans as "real working guys" while Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader…Continue
Added by regina barreca on November 16, 2016 at 1:41pm — No Comments
I have cried on all forms of public transportation, including planes, trains, subways, buses and London tubes — I lived in England for several years — and, naturally, I've cried in my car.
Every woman who drives a car has cried in it; why there isn't a permanent tissue holder next to the steering wheel defies understanding and offers evidence for the need of women to be more prominent in STEM fields, particularly in automotive engineering and design.
Subways and tubes are the…Continue
As quiet passivity goes out of fashion for women, fearlessness comes sashaying in, whistling and rattling her charm bracelet.
Having heard Hillary Clinton referred to as "such a nasty woman" by Donald Trump was like hearing the signal delivered in the midnight ride of Paul Revere, the one warning patriots that the enemy was closing in and that people made of stern stuff had to muster their resources and make a stand.
Citizens who hadn't rallied before were startled into action…Continue
Added by regina barreca on November 7, 2016 at 12:54pm — No Comments
When Donald Trump says he wants to make America "great again," what many people hear is him saying he wants to make America "run by white men" again. We've been talking about race in coded terms during this election — except for those moments when Trump explains that black people all live in hell — and I think we need to address it more directly.
But a white woman pushing 60 shouldn't be encouraged to talk about race in America all by herself; we've had too much of that, just as we've…Continue
Added by regina barreca on November 7, 2016 at 12:52pm — No Comments
You know that Donald Trump actually got more speaking time than Hillary Clinton did in Sunday's presidential debate, don't you?
He whined that she got more, but that's because he was using man-time, believing he should automatically get 17 percent more than any woman. It's like man money or man years: It's the math enabling Trump…Continue
Added by regina barreca on October 17, 2016 at 11:55am — No Comments
Is "conflict resolution" an oxymoron? How does a true leader best handle conflict at work?
The world tells us that people in positions of leadership must facilitate "conflict resolution" within their communities; this leads to the kinds of successes we've seen throughout the world (insert bitter…
Added by regina barreca on October 24, 2013 at 10:54am — No Comments
With Halloween trying to sneak up on us, it's time to look without fear at the differences between what makes men scary and what makes women scary.
For example, your male villain in a horror movie must have third-degree peeling burns and open sores over most of his body; that's a given. It's a plus if he's wearing gloves…Continue
Added by regina barreca on October 18, 2013 at 11:00am — No Comments
I've been fascinated by personality tests ever since I abandoned those quizzes where you try to find out the shape of your face. At this point in my life I don't care what shape my face is. Or what shape my whole head is for that matter. What am I, a professor of geometry?
Personality tests, however, always extend the promise of deep and meaningful insight into what's been bothering you all these years. Even brief ones printed on bus panels are a catalyst for self-examination.…Continue
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Added by regina barreca on September 12, 2013 at 9:54am — No Comments
It's time to look at this fall's hot new fashions. I heard you've been feeling good about yourself and it's time to take you down a notch.
Have you seen any of these clothes? We are told that "houndstooth is the new black." How many of you want to wear a skin-tight, fitted houndstooth suit? Nobody? Is that because you're afraid you would look like William Shatner playing a golf pro from an obscure foreign country visiting America to pick up tips?
And that's just what women…Continue
Added by regina barreca on September 6, 2013 at 9:36am — No Comments
Like almost every other woman I know, many of the lessons I've had to unlearn in life I first learned in kindergarten.
For example, I've had to break the habit of having cookies and a nap at 3 in the afternoon.
That's because as an adult I developed this fetish about wanting to hold a steady job and not take up so much physical space I need to be hauled around by a winch.
Lying down every day after a heavy sugar and carb intake can undermine a girl's ambitions as well as…Continue
You might think it's too easy but it isn't: pretty much everything I’ve ever said to my graduate students—at least in terms of what they need to know to help them write their dissertation—can be summed up by the following points:
1. Choose your topic wisely. Your choice of subject is very much like your choice of mate. This will either be the beginning of a long and beautiful relationship or the start of a bad first…Continue
Added by regina barreca on August 9, 2013 at 7:20am — No Comments
I wanted to buy a T-shirt saying “Does this T-shirt make me look fat?” except it was too small.
It was my most recent low self-esteem shopping moment. Women have a lot of low self-esteem shopping moments thrust upon them by smart-alecky store mirrors and inner-demons.
This is especially true when the mirrors are positioned under hideous florescent…Continue
Added by regina barreca on August 1, 2013 at 11:36am — No Comments
The Rules Girls are back--and more annoying than ever, at least as far as their remarks
in New York Magazine's recent "Sex" issue goes. Even after Penn satirized them and Teller's program "BullSh&t," they continue to sound like that simply can't stop themselves from attacking other women who disagree with them. When we were all on Oprah…
Added by regina barreca on July 31, 2013 at 10:00am — No Comments
Last week I saw a girl wearing a yellow dress so tight it should have been made out of "caution" tape. I might well have been one of the few middle-aged heterosexual women looking at her and thinking "God bless America." The glazed-eyed lingering glances of admiring men indicated that they were also giving thanks but probably for different reasons.…Continue
Added by regina barreca on July 26, 2013 at 11:22am — No Comments
Do you have one?
What does it say?
Added by regina barreca on June 28, 2013 at 4:56pm — No Comments
I really want to hear what you have to say about this one!
Ever notice how women get noisy as we age? Ever notice how the quiet, deferential, focused good girl hits a certain point and morphs into a combination of Betty White, Bette Midler and Mae West?
That's because when women start to feel invisible, we decide to become audible.
Over 38, 40, 50 — every woman comes to the stage when she ceases to be the ingénue at a different age — we start making trouble:…Continue
Here is my recent "Cover Stories" Interview --
Gina Barreca, professor of English and feminist theory at the University of Connecticut, is known for quotes like, “It’s not a glass ceiling, doll—it’s a thick layer of…Continue
Added by regina barreca on June 11, 2013 at 5:50am — No Comments