My recent blogpost about contracted infidelity has been a bit controversial. Why wouldn't it be? I pointed out a new trend for couples who agree to a marriage where affairs are part of the contract. This is bothersome to the traditional marriage defenders, including me, and it makes people very uncomfortable just to discuss it. There is a lot of energy spent on defining and defending opinions about what marriage is, so I thought I would offer yet another challenging way to think about marriage.
There are two kinds of marriage, in my opinion. There is the "sacred" marriage and the "secular" marriage. Sacred marriages are bound by God and tied to faith, ritual, religion and spirituality.
Secular marriages are not dependent upon a church and they are simply a contract between two people agreeing to remain committed to one another.
Is there a place in the world for both kinds?
Actually...there IS a place in the world with both kinds. Since 1999, France has had both marriages and civil unions as a way for couples to commit to one another. Initially created as a way for homosexual couples to acknowldege lifelong commitments to one another, civil unions have now become primarily heterosexual arrangements.