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That’s a shame! Am I to blame?
Child sexual assault awareness and prevention!
That’s a Shame!! “Am I to blame?”
Why does the target of sexual assault carry more of the shame than the rapist? Why? Because with sexual assault the shame gets all mixed up with the blame. Why was I targeted? Did I do something, say something, or wear something that made me prey?. Afterwards, we are always looking for a reason. Why me? And if I made me the target, then don’t I have some of the blame?
Parents, I believe this is how the blame gets moved around on children and others. In sexual assault, the shame and the blame are interlinked. Parents need to help child understand, not their blame, not their shame. Please, once a child feels the shame, the blame and silence will follow. I know, I was that kid.
When A children adds the sense of blame with the overwhelming dirty shame of being sexually assault. A child goes silence, almost every time. Please help when a child goes suddenly silent. Sexual assault makes us feel dirty on the inside, and society makes us feel dirty on the outside. It’s a horrible trap, and it can be intersected. First, parents and family need to understand the shame and disconnect the blame. There is nothing a person, and NEVER EVER anything a child does to “deserve” to be raped. Nothing! Make this clear. Help your children understand. BEGIN to disconnect the blame and shame before they are trapped in it.
Prevent some creep from shoving your child into an unhealthy sexual situation. Please notice when your child is suddenly cloaked in silence and shame. They may even feel some of the blame. Give children the words. Give children a clear understanding of healthy physical boundaries. Keep your child away from the hidden hell of sexual assault. Open the ugly truth and solve the problems with me. Together we can build a stronger tomorrow by giving everyone an abuse free childhood today. It’s a wonderful beginning, don’t you think?
Thank you again for letting me share.
Cheers,
Renee -
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Copyright ©2010, Renee Cooper
That’s a Shame!! “Am I to blame?”
Why does the target of sexual assault carry more of the shame than the rapist? Why? Because with sexual assault the shame gets all mixed up with the blame. Why was I targeted? Did I do something, say something, or wear something that made me prey?. Afterwards, we are always looking for a reason. Why me? And if I made me the target, then don’t I have some of the blame?
Parents, I believe this is how the blame gets moved around on children and others. In sexual assault, the shame and the blame are interlinked. Parents need to help child understand, not their blame, not their shame. Please, once a child feels the shame, the blame and silence will follow. I know, I was that kid.
When A children adds the sense of blame with the overwhelming dirty shame of being sexually assault. A child goes silence, almost every time. Please help when a child goes suddenly silent. Sexual assault makes us feel dirty on the inside, and society makes us feel dirty on the outside. It’s a horrible trap, and it can be intersected. First, parents and family need to understand the shame and disconnect the blame. There is nothing a person, and NEVER EVER anything a child does to “deserve” to be raped. Nothing! Make this clear. Help your children understand. BEGIN to disconnect the blame and shame before they are trapped in it.
Prevent some creep from shoving your child into an unhealthy sexual situation. Please notice when your child is suddenly cloaked in silence and shame. They may even feel some of the blame. Give children the words. Give children a clear understanding of healthy physical boundaries. Keep your child away from the hidden hell of sexual assault. Open the ugly truth and solve the problems with me. Together we can build a stronger tomorrow by giving everyone an abuse free childhood today. It’s a wonderful beginning, don’t you think?
Thank you again for letting me share.
Cheers,
Renee -
Voice Finder
Copyright ©2010, Renee Cooper
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