I did an as told to interview for Elle.com with a woman who identifies as a BDSM submissive and feminist, a topic that's definitely timely with the Fifty Shades of Grey movie premiere.

Here's a quote: "We have rules we've made by agreement. I shave every other day. I put breakfast out for him every morning. My mouth has to touch his penis every morning before we leave bed; it doesn't have to be extended, but there has to be contact. I have to figure out how I'm doing my hair and makeup. That rule is for me, not for him. I feel better if I take the time to put a little effort in."