I have a blog due today and I have not written it. I started a great one two weeks ago, well in advance of today’s deadline (she wrote while simultaneously patting herself on the back) but I went away for the weekend and when I returned to the piece, Writing wouldn’t talk to me. Apparently we were on a break, only I didn’t know it. Yesterday I tried to get back together with it, but it wasn’t happening. So here I sit, deadline looming, with nothing. Writing is going to teach me a lesson.
Ironically, the topic for my last writing class was this very subject. My students were very interested to talk about the so-called writer’s block and I was going to help them. As luck would have it, I even declared that I didn’t really suffer from such a malady and shared with them some clever strategies and tips I had found on the Internet. “Write a list, change your location” were both ways I suggested to get the block out of the way. I was oh-so helpful and authoritative in giving my students the guidance they appeared to need. “Ha-ha,” said Writing, “I’ll show her.” And sure enough, she did.
In my defense, my time was infringed upon more regularly than usual over the last couple of weeks. A gala for my sister’s bookstore, a grandson with a first-time ear infection, and two infernal “day-job” reports to write consumed my energy and thought process. Showers, teaching, and walking did in the rest. I also attended a quite extravagant Trick or Treat Street fundraiser hosted by a local high school’s Grad Nite project. Apparently, I have yet (at fifty-six years of age) to develop a strong discipline to protect my writing time. And Writing knows this.
I can’t really put this issue on anything else. All my life I’ve had responsibilities to my numerous roles and relationships: daughter, wife, student, mother, friend, sister, employee. The relationship I really need to work on is the one with Writing. I need to earn her trust and assure her that I’ll be there, through thick and thin, in sickness and in health. Through day jobs and library board meetings. She will come back, I know she will, but it’s as hard for me to believe it as it is for Writing to trust me that I’ll honor my commitment. But that’s the way of relationships sometimes, isn’t it?
My commitment to the She Writes blog began a year ago. I have written one per month ever since. I have also maintained a two-per-month goal on my personal blog, so that makes three essays each month that I’ve written. In addition, I am working on a second book--another collection of essays--and a book on parenting based on my observations over the last six years of supervised visitation. I can bolster myself up with these milestones, and it helps, but that is not what is really required here. I know what it is. You know what it is, too.
How's your relationship with writing?
I don't really think any writer is immune to 'blocks' from time to time. In my book, The Way of Story: the craft & soul of writing, I devote a whole chapter to the subject: "Transcending Writers Block". In this chapter, I explore alternative perspectives on the subject, some unexpectedly positive.
Writing, like life, is a process. Best, Catherine Ann Jones www.wayofstory.com
Wow, Paula & Cate, you wrote more than I did! Thank you for your wonderfully personal and pertinent contributions to the topic. I can identify with both of your experiences completely. Well, maybe not being flat out watching Six Feet Under, but the method is a familiar one to me :) I also can connect with Paula's letting her characters take her where they want to go. It's magic, sometimes, when that happens. Thank you both again - what a treat to see such lovely comments!
I was a professional writer (business and high tech) for 36 years, and in that job I would say, smugly, that I didn't believe in writers' block. When you have material to write about and a deadline to meet, you write no matter how you feel, physically and mentally. At the same time, I had writing projects of my own that I worked on in bits and snatches, and, because they weren't my "job," I had no qualms about putting them aside for months or years on end. In 2011 I retired, and one of my goals was to complete those writing projects and start some new ones. This has been a bumpy (although ultimately successful) process, but in the course of it I discovered several things: