Yes Yes Yes.  I am about to self-publish a book on the death of my former husband, and I am in a quandary writing about his grown kids.  I think that writing in my own name now, and using their initials may help for casual queries into who they are.  It might embarrass them, but it is good stuff, and frankly, could be helpful words, and is not just gossip.  It has a strong point and lesson for people in crisis.