When you're grieving, people are usually trying to feed you.  But many years ago, in an attempt to outrun my terrifying grief, I got involved with a man who wouldn't let me eat. To leave him meant I'd have to grieve again--so I wrote about it for The London Telegraph --and many thanks to my stupendous UK publisher, Allen and Unwin, for making this happen!  Here is the link: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/lifestyle/8776269/The-food-of-love-and-grief.html