Shine On
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Written by
Rachel Jacobsen
February 2011
Contributor
Written by
Rachel Jacobsen
February 2011

Why is it when you have a project in which you have a particular outcome in mind, that the people in your life who know about your goals decide to throw in their two cents, and for what they claim to be motivation? More importantly, does it ever work? Perhaps it works at least enough to get me to rant about it. This relationship has never worked well for me, I have never been a good student, the child who was always destine to discover on her own. Of course the first thing that comes to mind is the fact that we all have our own unique ways to motivate ourselves, some may work well under pressure, others may completely crumble under pressure. No matter our motivating factors, I can assure you that mine is different from yours, so keep your advice to yourself!

I have begun to realize that the kryptonite to my motivation is other people and their invasive opinions for how I should or shouldn't be accomplishing something, or even worse suggestions as to the actual content of what I am creating. Now I am not suggesting that I am not capable of taking constructive criticism, not only am I capable of it, I need it! But there is a big damn difference between constructive criticism and complete outlandish invasive opinion giving. It would seem that our cultural upbringing has conditioned most of society to get really good at criticizing others, as opposed to support and promote quality cognitive thinking, and I have a damn problem with that!

It's like someone telling you that blue isn't your color, verses someone telling you to try wearing blue with a complimentary color, or maybe in a different hue. As one is quick to throw out the color altogether, the other is willing to go with it by adding suggestions for how to make it work. What makes my blood boil even more, is when someone is judging the content, and then claims not to be. How is it even possible that we as a society have come so disconnected from the capability of working together within a common space? Has our ability to relate become so disconnected that we aren't capable of realizing that when you step into anothers creative domain, that you are no longer working within your guiding mechanisms, but theirs? I doubt most people reading this will even understand. It's like standing over Leonardo da Vinci's shoulder while he was painting the Mona Lisa, and complaining that people won't understand why she is smirking. I would bet that even da Vinci was criticized and yet he still did what he had to do, regardless of the fact that others couldn't see his vision. But that doesn't mean you have to be the equivalent of a da Vinci in order to earn the right to freely express yourself in your art, that right is given to you the moment you are giving life.

As I scream from the proverbial mountain top, express your unique self, and don't let anyone judge you and put you down. How you do the dishes, cook, clean, create music, paint, write, care for your children, all of these things are a unique reflection of each one of us, and as long as these outlets are done without taking away or damaging anothers free will, then as Pink Floyd says “shine one you crazy diamond!”

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