Divorce is not usually an easy topic of conversation, and are even more delicate situations when children are involved. One of the most difficult aspects of a divorce is explaining it to children. And just think about it, it’s sometimes very difficult for adults to process, imagine how much more challenging it can be for a child. Children are extremely sensitive little humans, and the poor handling of a divorce involving kids could interfere with a hormonal balanced child. We asked a divorce expert his feedback to share.

Greater caution must be exercised when going through a divorce that involves children. At all times, the interest of the child should be forefront, and the adult parties involved should always endeavor to have as little disruption to family life as possible. Maturity should become the order of the day while selfish entitlements are overlooked.

Children are said to be highly intuitive and are keen observers. This enables them to gain insight into matters that were not yet opened for discussion, they are able to sense things and sometimes are not entirely clueless at to the state of the marriage. The temperament of the child should be considered when contemplating how to share news of divorce. Try to have an understanding of the emotional sensitivity of the child and on different occasions gauge responses.

Be honest with them. It is never wise to cover up too much, this could result in anger and resentment towards you. While parents are the guardians of their kids and therefore custodians of their haven sparing a child too much from the reality is almost like creating an alternate existence that usually collides with the reality. This does far more harm than good the outcome of which is typically rebellion.

Both adult parties should have a conversation with the child about the divorce, whether it’s done together or on separate accounts may vary depending on situations. This destroys any notion of a culprit and equally emphasizes the value of the child. The interpretation of such an act will be that of love, value and respect.

It also is good when there are constant demonstrations of civility between the adults involved. This is more than just being good templates of human beings. It settles for children that love and respect exists between the two, and is therefore disrespect to one party is never sanctioned by the other. Children mirror what they see, so reflecting good examples is important.

Seeking professional help in sharing the news of divorce is also an acceptable course. Where it is felt that added help is needed in the process, a counsellor or therapist may be an alternative. It would also aid the process in parent are also in attendance at the sessions. This will open conversations that would lead to sharing thoughts and emotions.

It will never be easy to share news of divorce with children, but the way in which it’s done will affect the response. Always remember the child involved is most greatly affected and therefore deserves greatest consideration.