You are, as You were Created to be- So Accept Yourself

You were created to be you — your full authentic self.  From the day you were born until this moment, there has only been one of you, and no one else can take your place in this world.  Therefore, who you genuinely are is whom you are supposed to be.  You’re not supposed to pretend to be someone you’re not.  Or are you to wear masks and armor that the ego says you need.  You’re to be your authentic self every moment of each day. 


If we all believed this concept that we are as we were created to be, it would be life-changing.  But instead, we accept as real the ego, screaming in our head, which states that if we are authentically ourselves, no one will love us.  Even with our flaws exposed, we are as we were created to be.  Our flaws allow us to make genuine connections with others to help us overcome our faults as we help others surmount their own. 


Believing that we are the perfect version of ourselves means that we lovingly accept who we are, take care of ourselves, and are the best versions of our authentic selves with all we meet.


Being yourself means shedding all the layers of looking good, wanting to be liked, being scared to stand out, and trying to be who you think people want you to be. Being yourself means being naked, raw, and vulnerable. ~ Jeff Moore

Mindset of Acceptance


This acceptance that we are created to be our own individual, unlike anyone else on the planet, is something we all think about but allow the ego to lie to us.  We instead believe the ego’s voice telling us that the only way to be loved is to be like everyone else.  But no one else is the same because we are all different.  The ego uses our uniqueness as a tool to keep alone. 


So why do we struggle with accepting ourselves and others as they are and allow conflict to arise?  Even though we all know that we can’t control another person, our ego desires to.  If we instead choose to accept one another, as we were created to be, then the main obstacle to any resolution is already accomplished since we all want to be recognized for who we are. 


To adopt a mindset of acceptance means that we don’t automatically resist what is.  You are you, why should I not accept you as you are and visa-versa.  Each individual is a soul living in a body, here on this planet, to love and serve each other.  It’s that simple, but we resist instead of adopting a mindset of acceptance.  This mindset enables us to increase mental flexibility and the capacity to adjust to one’s surroundings in a meaningful way.


By resisting what is, we are choosing to struggle, which only leads to more negativity in our lives.  Struggle means to fight against – to want to be miserable. Here again, the ego is trying to separate you from authentically connecting with others and to steal your joy and peace.  Even if we disagree, that doesn’t mean we need to allow our perspectives to determine whether or not we accept the person.  People are not their ideas or the labels we put upon them. 


It’s exhausting to fight against what is.  Just because we don’t like it or we are surprised by an event, doesn’t mean there isn’t a lesson for us to learn from it.  Life is full of a myriad of experiences for us to encounter, so by choosing to focus on the contrary, only prolongs the suffering.


Accepting means that you turn your resistance thoughts into accepting ones like, “I’m in this position. I’m not too fond of it, but it’s what is, and I can’t change that it occurred.”  We can’t change the past, and we cannot control everything that happens in our lives.   By accepting the situation, you don’t allow any negative emotions to override your joy or your peace of mind.  


The strongest force in the universe is a human being living consistently with his identity. ~Tony Robbins

Acceptance is Empowering


By accepting what is, we can then decide to work towards an alternative or better state of being.  We can consciously choose not to feel a negative emotion and instead look at it from a different perspective.   Only when we accept what is can we focus on taking action needed to find a solution. 


By allowing what is to be, we learn to see past the current behavior of others or situations and see the bigger picture.  We learn to rise above the perplexing circumstances and become more tolerant of others and more resilient to the conditions life throws at us.  We realize that labels aren’t ways to distinguish others but to isolate us from our fellow human beings. 


By letting go of the wishful thinking or the woe is me attitude, you allow the peace and joy to re-enter your being.  This releasing is when you are empowered to overcome the condition instead of wallowing in it.  You release by no longer making value judgments about the state you find yourself.  There’s no devaluing of any kind as all situations are learning experiences if you choose to see it as a growth opportunity


Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, magical person that you are. ~ Mandy Hale

Accepting Others


A byproduct of accepting yourself is that you are more inclined to accept others as they are.  As we are more ourselves with others because we are unafraid of being authentic, we realize that we want others to be themselves as well.  We all want to be loved and accepted as we are, not what we think others want us to be.

In accepting people as they are, we begin to build a bridge that overcomes the conflict in our lives.  When we focus on what we have in common, we authentically connect instead of allowing the conflict to keep us separated. 

Diminishing the angst between one another allows us to find better solutions to more significant problems because together, we can overcome much more then we can individually.  This acceptance is the only way global issues can be resolved by coming together and accepting one another as we are. 

If you want peace, you have to accept the other. Talk to the other, and accept that they have rights. ~ Saad Hariri

Moving Forward


Resisting who we are is harmful to our self-esteem.  Resisting, who other people are, causes separation and conflict.  By choosing to stay in the struggle, we choose to be miserable and allow the world to continue in negativity. 

So, let’s make a conscious decision to accept ourselves as we were created as well as allowing others for who they are.  By doing so, we no longer resist what is and let the beginnings of peace to enter our lives and build bridges of loving connection with people in the world. 

We keep becoming better & better versions of ourselves without end, though there may be some glitches, we recover & go on. ~ Jay Woodman

As you realize, that you are as you were created to be and accepting of one another, we become more aware of our mindsets; then you can alter the course of your life.   To receive more enlightening articles right into your email, fill this out now.

Do you need help in accepting yourself as you are?  Do you need support in making authentic and loving connections with others?  Do you want a strategy to help you create a beautiful life?  If so, please contact me, and we can put together an action plan for you to be authentically you and for you to know that you are enough.

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