[Body, Mind & Spirit] How To Slow Down (& Still Get Everything Done)!
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Today’s writer wears many hats. We are scribes, entrepreneurs, workshop and thought leaders, public speakers, social media experts, publicists, publishers, teachers, coaches, editors, partners, caregivers, and more. It’s easy to get overwhelmed. But here’s the good news: It’s impossible to become overwhelmed when you reside in the present moment. Overwhelm is a result of projecting into the future and imagining you won’t get everything you want (or think you need to do) done. In order to reside in the present moment you must slow down. Ironically, slowing your pace, doing less, enables you to do more. It’s counterintuitive, but try it and you’ll see what I mean. Here are a few suggestions for slowing down and becoming more present in your life. These activities will calm you, and a peaceful person is ultimately a more productive one.

 

Retreat To Your Sanctuary

If you don’t have a place in your home designed for relaxation, create one. You don’t need a lot of space; surrounding yourself with things that comfort you and make you feel cared for is enough. I recently renovated my bedroom, transforming it from the most neglected room in my house to a blissful relaxation sanctuary where I can now read in my cozy corner, or stare at the altar I created on my dresser, or “bathe” in flickering candlelight. I wear earplugs to savor silence, and I have a lavender-scented eye pillow for when I want to shut out light and relieve the pressure between my eyes. I sometimes listen to music or guided meditations, and have declared this space a work-free zone. Now my response to my space is Pavlovian—relaxation kicks in the moment I enter that room. I also sleep better since I declared my bedroom a place of rest and rejuvenation.

Meditate

A lot of folks are confused about meditation, probably because there are as many ways to meditate as there are people in this world. But the important thing is to remain open, receptive, and present. Sometimes I do seated meditations with my legs crossed underneath me, one hand on my belly and the other on my heart. Sometimes I plant my feet on the floor and imagine I’m connected to the earth and sky by a thick cord running through the base of my spine and up through the top of my head. Sometimes I follow my breath or my pulse. Other times I imagine my body filled with golden light. Sometimes I chant, or sing, or hum, or speak gibberish, all the while listening and trying to connect with the “me” that is other than my body. Sometimes I do a dancing meditation, or I walk. What’s important is my intention to connect and take myself as deep as possible into my center. It helps when I think of my life as a lake. My breath is the wind rippling its surface. Meditation helps me access calm, still waters. This is a profoundly nourishing place. Wisdom resides here. And guidance. It’s a reservoir of ideas and inspiration. Taking time to visit this place is well worth the effort. 

Keep a Journal

Writing slows us down; after all, we can only write one word at a time. Writing in your journal can be like lifting the lid off a pressure-cooker to release steam. It’s also a great way to connect with yourself, and with Source energy. I have conversations with myself in my journal, using different colored ink for different voices. I give voice to my fears, my guilt, my shame, my confusion, and my joy—whatever emotions arise. Often, I’m not clear what’s present inside until I start scribbling. Taking the time to check in with yourself through journal writing will save time in the long run. You will have a clearer sense of what you’re doing and why. You will also feel connected, and a connected person is a happier one. It’s easier to forge connections with others when you feel connected within.

 

Practice Yoga

You may not think you’re the yoga type, but more and more people are turning to yoga to heal and nourish their bodies and to press the pause button in their daily lives. Not all yoga is intense, like Bikram Yoga, which is done in a heated room. Not all yoga involves strenuous postures designed for lean, flexible bodies. Many yoga studios now offer classes designed for rest and relaxation. These classes have various names: Yin Yoga, Restorative Yoga, Therapeutic Yoga, Slow Yoga. I recently took a “Breathe & Stretch” yoga class. The pace was borderline geriatric and it took me a while to acclimate, but by the end of the session, which I’d started in a frazzled state, I felt calm and centered. By focusing your attention on your body, yoga relaxes your mind, which is helpful for those of us who live in our heads. I don’t know about you, but my mind needs quieting on a daily basis.

Ask “How” Questions

Consider creating and releasing into the Universe a How Question. Here are three personal examples:

• “How can I get all my work done while remaining calm and peaceful inside?”

• “How can I show up responsibly as a writer and entrepreneur while honoring my own spirit?”

• “How can I take exquisite care of myself while writing, teaching, coaching, and managing my business?”

 

If you slow down, listen, and trust yourself and the Universe, the answers will come.

 

I’d love to hear what practices slow you down and help you to be more present in your writing and in your life. 

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  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    Yes, Marybeth, I agree. Morning pags are lovely. Thanks for reading and sharing! Good luck with your book!

  • Marybeth Holleman

    Lovely post. I practice all of these, and yet sometimes I forget. Right now, it is so easy to feel overwhelmed as I work to promote my new book Among Wolves. So, yes, I will remember to take breaks, do yoga, sit quietly, meditate. One practice I have done for over a decade: morning pages. First thing every day, I sit and write three pages, longhand. About whatever arises. It's lovely, cleansing, insightful.

  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    mary e (Liz) Gordon: Thanks for your sweet message and I'm so glad my post helped! LOVE that you experienced it as a meditation! How cool!

  • mary e (Liz) Gordon

    Thanks for the reminder, Bella. It's so easy to get pulled out of one's space, especially when rewrites await. I feel more relaxed and ready to dive in just from reading your piece, a meditation in itself.

  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    Thanks, Patti. Glad you found my meditation suggestions helpful—and thanks for sharing!

  • Patti Hall

    Thank you! One thing I loved is how you give such easy ways to meditate right now. I found this on a Facebook share from Sherrey Meyer. I re-shared it there too.

    Patti

  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    Yes, Sara, I agree! I love naps! Thanks for reading, and for your wise remarks!

  • Sara Etgen-Baker

    Thanks, Bella, for reminding me of the transformative power of slowing down.  You're so right....I get overwhelmed when I think too far ahead.  The present is powerful and calming.  Meditation and yoga do help.  I've also discovered the value of even a 30-minute nap.  The deep breathing coupled with disconnecting renders such great results!

     

  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    Thanks, Lizzie. I'm glad we've connected!

  • Lizzie Eldridge

    Bella Mahaya Carter: Glad I reminded you of that amazing book and brilliant it came at the right time for you :) Lovely to have you as a friend on SheWrites and all the very best!

  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    Beverly Brannan: Thank you for your lovely comment. It calms and restores me. Blessings to you and yours!

  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    Pamela Olson: Congrtaulations on all your hard work! You are an inspiration! I'm sure you're going to relax big time when you get home, but I'm wondering if you can drop down into that quiet place now. Why wait? Sometimes travel offers unique opportunities for meditation, journal writing, and even yoga. Be creative with your self-care even—especially—while on the road. Easier said than done, I know, but what the heck, I thought I'd offer the suggestion. We are capable of so much more than we think! Kudos to you for your fine work. Your tour looks AMAZING!

  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    Lizzie Eldridge: Thanks for reading and commenting. You inspired me to take The Power of Now off my bookshelf and read it again. It was EXACTLY what I needed last night! So thank YOU!

  • Beverly Brannan

    Personally I use a mantra which allows me to focus my attention on the moment; the moment in which I'm in is a moment which will never come again, how can I make the most of this moment? people? creatures? any other living thing? anything of beauty? anything of joy? It seems long, but with concentration and prayer it becomes milliseconds. In my "moment" my questions have resolutions, my courage is renewed, my energy is focused.

  • Pamela Olson

    Thanks, Dawn. I set up nearly all of it myself -- it's an enormous job. I like giving the talks and meeting people, but all the logistics and publicity and travel (and being away from my new husband) is exhausting. But it is definitely a joy to have a book out in the world telling a story that means a lot to me. I should remember that...

  • Dawn Downey

    Pamela, Congratulations on having a book and a tour. I love your title and cover.

  • Pamela Olson

    It's funny -- I'm in desperate need of relaxation after months of book tour preparation and weeks of book tour travel (and other things -- always other things, too). A week of prioritizing yoga, meditation, and journal writing is exactly what I'm planning as soon as I get home!

    ( Check out this crazy schedule -- and it doesn't even list everything, only public events: http://fasttimesinpalestine.wordpress.com/2013/09/03/fall-book-tour-schedule )

  • Lizzie Eldridge

    Thanks very very much, Bella, for this beautiful and inspiring piece. It connects perfectly with a book I'm currently re-reading - The Power of Now. Fantastic to read your article at the same time and thanks for this :)

  • Bella Mahaya Carter

    That's wonderful, Dawn. Thanks for reading and sharing! I know what you mean about the laptop, which makes it easy to work everywhere! But having a sacred space devoted to relaxation and contemplation is a very nourishing gift!

  • Dawn Downey

    I slow myself down by remembering the last time I missed a self-imposed deadline---and the sky did not fall. Thank you for your insights. I love the mobility of my laptop, and every room of my house is really comfortable, so I've been working everywhere in my house. Today, thanks to your post, I realize that's left me with no place that signals relaxation or contemplation. So now the bedroom is off-limits to work. No laptop allowed.