Is a Love Life Distracting?
Aside from the usual distractions - raising kids, work writing, running a farm - I've found that if/when there's a guy "of interest" in my life, it affects my writing. I'm curious if others have the same issue. If so, what do you do about it?
I spend my entire day writing for a living, which is much different than writing for my book. When I'm not writing for pay, I'm being Mom, working on the house rennovations, or outside working on land improvements. I really don't have a lot of extra time to work on my book. Every time I get involved with someone - even though I tend to keep relationships at something of arm's length for personal reasons - my writing time suffers dramatically.
It has pretty much come down to I either write my book, or I date. At the moment, I think I'd rather write my book. But I'm sure there will come a day that this will change. Maybe.
Anyone else have this issue? Which do you choose? A great guy, or a great book? Or is there really a way to blend the two? Perhaps I just haven't met the right guy. Maybe I need to start dating writers - at least they'll get it. lol.
Some days, I really miss my hubby. He always found a way to somehow understand when I needed my space & when I needed to take a break and be a little more social. Time was never an issue when he was alive. We just found the time when we could. Unfortunately, dating a guy is much different than being married to a guy. :)
I have found it to be true that my craft (s) always take a back seat to a love interest. I love love and the music I play is about love, my poetry is about love. A slowdown in my writing/playing work process for love (the only relationship since my 20 year marriage ended) seemed to feed the content of my writing and playing (especially after it's over--oh the pain :) )and so it seems a necessary part of the creative journey. Sometimes I wonder if a disciplined approach, more balanced and rigid about my time, would be best next time. It seems that a love opportunity (a good one) is always spontaneous and one doesn't want to miss out on a chance for joy for a time. I suppose trial and error with different approaches is in order. Giving up a writing or practice session for a bad date, however, is annoying ... one doesn't always know in advance of course...